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LA FINE DI UN AMORE. ACCETTAZIONE E DISTACCO TOTALE

Un percorso per il superamento della fine di un amore

irst of all, I must accept that the love is gone and that in the end, we had completely disarmed.

Without an acceptance of any path that is useless.

seems obvious, but it is not. At the beginning, especially if the end comes so sudden and unexpected, we tend to deny all or at least minimize. It is believed that the other back, which has confused some doubt or lack of love as anything else.
After you have come to accept that love is truly over, it sinks into a deep, agonizing pain. should then enjoy a period of mourning. In this
period that can last for days or weeks and sometimes months go kicked out all our pain. We must cry all the tears of this world. You may assist in this period by a person dear to us who work just listening, picking up our pain, we will ease a bit 'suffering. We must think about all the anger you have inside and any guilt you feel. Need a
total detachment from the person who left us.
Often, to suffer less, it tends to maintain a minimum of report, type of friendship with each other. There is an illusion that it will be less excruciating pain, while there is nothing but prolong the agony. Moreover, this attitude nasconde la speranza, spesso inconscia, che l'amore possa ritornare. Quindi, prima che si possa riprendere un rapporto anche minimamente formale con l'altro, occorre tempo.

Evitare luoghi e situazioni della relazione finita.

L'evitare luoghi e situazioni dell'amore finito fa parte di quel distacco assoluto, necessario al superamento del tutto.

Agire.

Bisogna, nel frattempo, fare qualcosa di positivo per sé stessi, per riempire il vuoto della mancanza della persona amata.
La fine dell'amore rappresenta anche un momento di crescita, di rafforzamento delle proprie capacità di superare le difficoltà. It may also represent the beginning of a process intended to better know ourselves. If we succeed in this we will surely be stronger and more mature.
understand what, if any empty interior this love so strong and passionate filled. In fact, often very strong feelings are not due to love for the beloved, but our lack of affection. Do not forget the doctor
Tempo to spend with his heals all wounds. The ancient Greeks distinguished two different concepts of time: Chronos and Kairos. The passing of Cronos
which is the chronological time, the hours, days and months is important to overcome a love. Some of the author is opinion that at least six months are needed to overcome a bereavement or abandonment.
The other concept of time is Kairòs which is a personal time, a time to say "enough", ie the time of internal change. It 's that moment when we realize that it's time to turn the page.

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The total distance is the best strategy when a relationship ends, although the approach is more painful, because it tends to slice through any contact. This type of detachment is most useful if it is implemented by both components of torque. The total detachment implies that there is no contact of any kind, whether in person or through a third party via email, SMS, phone calls, etc .... The gap is the total
best way to overcome the pain of separation when it was left by their partner, without humble prayer to retrace his steps (actually further away from us). But above all, the total detachment allows to actually begin the process of mourning the end of the report. Any type of partial detachment as if they put a full stop to rework the end of a love.
The total detachment requires a lot of determination and provides further suffering to that already accumulated at the end of the report but it is definitely essential in overcoming their pain.

• The total detachment is a commitment you make to yourself and nobody else. If not completed you have to take only with yourself because it's your choice and no one forces you.
• be carried out with the right motivation. The total detachment should not be used as a strategy in order to feel our absence, and then the other can make a comeback. In this case it would cause only more pain.
• Make a total detachment is a commitment to ourselves and stop it sets out, therefore, only themselves consequences thereof. For example, the / your former partner may be annoyed by your resume contact because they thought you had passed the end of the report. This could further strengthen them in their choice of giving an end to history.
• The total detachment also serves to maintain personal dignity, why do not you give your ex never to the satisfaction of knowing that you are still concerned and appalled by the end of the report. This type of detachment, you will not ask them to go back, not to say things that you would not want to say, not to show him that you are wrong.
• total detachment is usually adopted by those who are left. But it can also happen the other way, For example, if you've found it a betrayal of the other partner and want to come back begging forgiveness. If you are not convinced of the total detachment of forgiveness will allow you to reflect more calmly on the decision to make.

Why do men decide to end a relationship?

There are several reasons why men decide to close a report.
First, simply because they feel they do not love anymore. In these cases, although initially there were all the main components of a genuine relationship of love - affection, passion and commitment, there is the loss of feeling in its entirety, or in one of its parts. In the latter regard is the frequent close the report because it is failing on the part of man's commitment to build a couple of future projects, especially in a society with a strong "disengagement" as the present one. The classic example of the eternal Peter Pan who wants to live to the report only as a passion than affection, but without any commitment in the longer term.
often report starts from the beginning, with the lack of a male component in the feeling, so you can order as if it were already written. In these cases, the woman does not realize or will not realize that the report is deficient in certain aspects from the beginning. Un'altra causa ricorrente è il tradimento della persona amata. Per condizionamenti culturali, l'uomo si sente colpito nella sua virilità e non accetta il possesso fisico della propria donna, da parte di un altro. Anche se ultimamente la mentalità maschile al riguardo sta cambiando.

Perchè gli uomini vengono lasciati ?

I motivi per cui gli uomini vengono lasciati sono da una parte gli stessi per cui lasciano, seppur con significative differenze.
La componente impegno che negli uomini è spesso deficitaria sin dall'inizio è molto più presente nelle donne ed appunto questa mancanza nell'uomo che poi conduce la donna a lasciarli. Sul tema del tradimento le donne, related more to a man's emotional possession, they forgive the physical, so, unless it involved other causes not interrupt the report.

As a man lives, the end of a love?

A man, any man, even the most confident, before the end of a love, a love that felt authentic, it demonstrates its fragility, its weaknesses. The man puts in place a script, not "manly" culturally in many ways to recover the lost love. Phone calls, text messages, interviews "clarification" to come up to graze or, sometimes, what is a stalking behavior. The typical behavior
the phenomenon of stalking, as well as those mentioned above, are: stalking, letters and flowers, various ambushes (home, work, etc. ...), breaking and entering, visit the workplace, threats of violence, physical and sexual abuse of different entity.

As a man over the end of a love?

addition to Kronos and Kairos (physician time) we mentioned earlier we have to distinguish an external processing, the most superficial and the facade, and an inner, deeper but also more painful, which leads to true acceptance of mourning premise for his actual passing.
Man, even in front of an "emotional grief" deep and rending, tents, usually with his wife, to process it in the shortest time and type Cronos mainly at the level of external processing.
Consequently, puts more action, the technique of "crushing nail nail" with predictable consequences for the future "victim" that lends itself to this script.
addition, it also happens that develops just a hatred for the genre "feminine" that leads to a relationship for the sole purpose, more or less unconscious, for revenge, the person who left.
missing, and then in humans, often the sentimental conception of mourning that is tied to a conception of both Kairos time than genuine inner development. At the individual level the work of mourning is also linked to previous experiences of mourning and scripts family past and present.