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QUALCHE RIFLESSIONE SULL'AMORE (AMORE COMPLETO)

I the professor has theorized Sternberg, supported by some of his research, a concept of complete love, based on three fundamental components:

• commitment as the cognitive component
• 'emotional intimacy as part
• the passion of love as a motivational component

You may see love as a triangle in which the higher-commitment intimacy and passion, the greater the triangolo e più intenso l'amore.
Da questa teoria scaturisce una tipologia collegata alla combinazione dei tre diversi fattori, dando luogo a otto possibili tipi di relazione.

• "L'assenza di amore": tutte e tre le componenti mancano; è la situazione della grande maggioranza delle nostre relazioni personali, casuali o funzionali.
• "Simpatia": C'è solo l'intimità, si può parlare con una persona, parlare di noi, ci si riferisce ai sentimenti che si provano in una autentica amicizia e comporta cose come la vicinanza, il calore umano (ma non i sentimenti forti della passione and commitment).
• "The infatuation" when only passion. Love at first sight that can arise at once and vanish as quickly. There occurs an intense physiological arousal, but without intimacy or commitment. Passion is like a drug, to grow fast and quick to fade, it burns quickly and after a while 'is no longer the effect you want: you get used to, get the habit.
• "empty love" where the commitment is devoid of intimacy and passion, all that remains is the commitment to stay together. A stagnant relationship is observed sometimes for certain couples married for many years there was a time of intimacy, but now they do not talk more, there was passion, but also goes out for a while.
• "Romantic love" is a combination of intimacy and passion (like Romeo and Juliet). More than infatuation, is closeness and sympathy with the addition of physical attractiveness and excitement, but without the commitment, as a summer fling that you know it ends.
• "fatuous love" is one that involves the passion and commitment, but without intimacy. And 'love soap-opera: the two meet, after a week they are engaged, and after a month they get married. Commit themselves to each other by physical attraction. But since the intimacy needs time to grow, it lacks the emotional core that can stand up to the undertaking. It 'a kind of love that does not usually give good results in the long run.
• "Sodality of love": is called a relationship of intimacy and mutual commitment, but without passion. It 's like a friendship destined to last. That kind of love that is often seen in marriages where physical attraction is gone.
• "Love perfect or complete" when all three elements are combined in a report. Achieving a perfect love, this author says, is like trying to lose some 'weight, difficult but not impossible, it is very difficult to maintain a healthy weight once you arrive or keep a love alive when complete it is reached. It 's a job open, not a milestone achieved once and for all.

The report tends to end badly if there is a mismatch between what the other wants and what you plan to receive anyone who has loved without being reciprocated likewise, knows how frustrating it can be.
Sometimes you may be advised to reduce their expectations and reduce its involvement: but it is difficult advice to follow.
The people are really so foolish as to always make the wrong choice?
Probably not: the fact is that too often choose based on what matters most immediate.
But what matters in the long run is different: the factors that count change, people change and relationships change.
I factors that tend to become more important over the course of time are these three:

• willingness to change depending on the needs of the
• willingness to accept its imperfections
• the community These are values \u200b\u200b

things that is difficult to judge at the beginning of a relationship: the idea that love conquers all obstacles is very romantic, but very real.
When it comes to making decisions, when the children arrive and have to take some decisions, something that seemed less important it becomes. Other factors
instead become secondary in the long run: as the idea that the other is "interesting" (in the beginning there is the fear that if the report set the interest vanishes). In fact
almost everything tends to decrease with time (statistically studied in pairs):

• the ability to communicate
• physical attraction
• the pleasure of being together
• interests in common the ability to listen
• mutual respect
• transport

romantic ... can be depressing, but it is important to know what to expect from the beginning in time, have realistic expectations about what you can get and what will ultimately be more important in the long run .
What can we do to improve a relationship?
Often there is a huge leap between thinking, feeling and action. Our actions do not always reflect our feelings, so it may be useful to know which acts are specifically associated with the various components of love. The
passione richiederà il contatto fisico, la sessualità, la varietà e non la monotonia dei comportamenti sessuali.
L'intimità richiederà la comunicazione dei propri sentimenti interiori, l'offerta del sostegno emotivo, la condivisione del proprio tempo e delle proprie cose.
L'impegno, infine, comporterà il fidanzamento, il matrimonio, la fedeltà, la capacità di superare i momenti difficili, la capacità di trovare un valido compromesso nelle diverse legittime esigenze ed aspirazioni.
E' importante esprimere l'amore nei comportamenti perché il modo in cui ci comportiamo plasma i nostri modi di pensare e di sentire, forse non meno di quanto ciò che pensiamo e proviamo plasma le our actions (if you do not act as you think, you're going to think about how you act).
Also some actions lead to other actions: the expressions of love of one affect what the other thinks of him (on the feelings and behavior against the other) as giving rise to a series of actions that reinforce each other.
E 'must give weight to expressions of love. Without expression, even the greatest love may die.