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INCOMUNICABILITA'. NEGOZIAZIONE DELLA COPPIA

Incommunicability the couple

"A W e all in a world of things, each his own world of things ... And how can we be clear, sir, if I say I put in words the meaning and value of things as they are within me, as the listener inevitably takes them with the sense and the value they have for themselves, with the world ' he has the inside? We understand; not mean never. "
Luigi Pirandello

communication, the art of speaking clearly and say what we mean and feel, to listen to the other ed essere sicuri di aver capito bene, è la capacità principale per creare e mantenere un rapporto d'amore.
Spesso nella coppia ci si pone la domanda "Ma perché non mi capisci?" pronunciata prevalentemente dalle donne rispetto agli uomini.
Questa domanda andrebbe trasformata "Come possiamo costruire un rapporto sulla reciproca comprensione?"
Và puntualizzato che "comprendere" non significa "concordare" perché si può accettare la possibilità di comprendere appieno il punto di vista dell'altro, senza necessariamente concordare, mentre nella coppia, spesso l'accettazione del punto di vista altrui significa anche essere d'accordo.
Comprendere non significa cedere e riconoscere l'altro più forte di noi, al contrario, quanto più riusciamo a conoscere meglio i suoi bisogni tanto più facilmente riusciamo a conquistare la sua fiducia e perfino la sua attenzione nei nostri confronti fino al punto di "vendergli" (se siamo particolarmente bravi) le nostre idee.
Ma per poter comprendere è necessario saper ascoltare, cosa che tutti pensiamo di saper fare dalla nascita ma che in realtà facciamo solo a livello superficiale.
La mancanza di ascolto attivo è la causa principale dei litigi.
In una discussione accade spesso di non prestare realmente ascolto alle parole dell'altro; la nostra mente è impegnata non tanto a capire la sua posizione, ma ad elaborare una risposta.
Ascoltare in modo attivo significa manifestare reale interesse per quello che l'altra persona dice e ciò che lascia intendere con il linguaggio non verbale. Nell'ascolto attivo mente e corpo sono protesi verso l'altro e questo permette di capire le motivazioni che l'hanno spinto a dire o fare qualcosa prima di giudicare o di sentirsi feriti ed offesi. Insomma ascoltarsi aiuta a capirsi e quindi ad amarsi di più.

La negoziazione di coppia

Avete presente quando discutete su come spendere i vostri soldi, come suddividervi la gestione della casa, dove andare in vacanza, ecco, in quei momenti state negoziando o almeno ci provate. Possiamo say that experience is quite common, a special way of communicating and as such can certainly be improved. Following simple guidelines can become adept at asking for what you want without having to manipulate or put aside your partner.
As it is now clear that the conflict between two people who want different things, it is inevitable, let's see how we can better address.
begin stressing that they should not directly attack the other person but try to separate their feelings from the issue under discussion, focusing on the interests sought and not on rigid positions, reaching a mutually acceptable decision with flexibility and perseverance.
Then to work!!

The negotiation is conducted through five stages

I. Preparation, basic rules

accept with serenity the conflict: the conflict is unavoidable, be in disagreement is natural and can be a time of growing . It is not the downfall of the couple. I want to be able to reach an agreement that is positive for both. I want to abandon the idea of \u200b\u200bwanting to win at all costs. I want to be flexible, I try to free my mind from prejudices. After you have clarified these basic rules begins with a description the situation.
Now describe what feelings and emotions you distinguish when you think about what's going on.
then tries to describe what are the interests of your and your partner and what may be common.

my interests I: ....
The interests of partners ....
Our interests: ....

Now analyzes possible solutions considering what would be the ideal solution for you, as you may meet your partner and what would be unacceptable.

• ideal solution:
  
• How could you run into:
  
• Solution unacceptable

II. Discussion

At this stage we start talking and you should follow the stages of preparation and then you start:

• describe the facts as seen
  
• Expressing your emotions is both of those Your partner
  
• As you can see the problem as opposed to the interests of your partner, your town and those in
  
• Observe how the problem is complicated by the desires of support, trust, freedom and contact
  
• work on possible solutions until needs and interests are not clear.
  
• Suggest your ideal solution.
  

If you're mired in a debate should take a step back and start the following logic:

I think (the facts) .................. .................
I feel (emotions) ........................................ I want
(interest) .....................................
I wish (the abstractions) ...................................
Maybe you could (attempt at a solution) ....................................

In trading it is important to use effective communication and then follow some basic rules:

• not stick, not threatening, not blame, do not be discouraged.
• Having a sympathetic attitude, take the role of partners in order to better understand it.
• Use active listening, paraphrase, summarize and ask questions to better understand the point of view.
  
• Pursuing the goal: to reach a mutually acceptable solution.
  

III. Proposal / counter

In this process, both partners are proposing a possible solution, initially very different then little recently the most plausible solution is characterized as interest of both.
To facilitate this process we can consider some classic ways to reach a compromise.
"I cut the cake and you're the first choice," or rather, one decides how to divide a situation and then chooses one of the other two options.
"Let's do both so we'll have a better outcome for everyone." For example, why not put forth all the clothes so I end up first and I can make a good dinner and you have the time to read the newspaper.
"Trial Period." Let you go once a week to do that thing if we see in this way improves the quality the time you spend at home.
"We do it my way when it's my turn, your way when it's your turn." When I drive I'm going at this speed when you drive to the one you want.
"Equal and draw." If you clean the bathroom once a week I'll do laundry once a week.
"We combine what I want with what you want." I'll take charge of this thing that you do not like it but you do this one for me.
"We split the difference." I do not care to spend for that, but you do so I take half the price and buy something else.

IV. Disagreement

This is the most difficult phase. To be able to overcome it must be said that is not the end of everything, but just a natural phase of negotiation. When you reach the stage of disagreement is a sign that need to do some revision in the previous phases. Let's see how
:

• Find a new counter, using a different strategy of compromise.
  
• Return to the discussion of the interests and needs.
  
• Take a brainstorming (write on paper all the possible solutions that come to mind, including less meaningful).
  
• When one or both of you are really tired, ask for a break.
  
• Ritorna alla fase della preparazione. Trascorri più tempo a cercare gli interessi comuni e le risoluzioni creative. Riesamina i tuoi sentimenti. Acquisisci ulteriori informazioni necessarie.
  

V.   Accordo

Finalmente siete entrambi d'accordo su un'opzione che vi rende felici. Prima di dichiarare chiusa la negoziazione siate ben sicuri che vada per entrambi bene e ognuno di voi potrà per evidenziare ciò esprimere ad alta voce il suo consenso.