D the theoretical and scientific point of view the end of a love that is due to the same processes of separation and mourning. One could speak of a true universal scheme, divided into three phases, which succeed each other: protest, despair and detachment.
- The protest is characterized by rather intemperate reactions such as crying, screaming, agitation, anxiety, panic. The person left, abandoned, unconsciously, it does so with the intent to influence the return of the person left. The
- despair, the behavior of hyperactive and active protest, others to take over total inactivity, weakness, melancholy. They also appeared to physiological changes, such as sleep disturbances, diarrhea, abnormal eating behavior, increased heart rate. To disappointment due to the negative outcomes of behaviors adopted during the first phase, which had not ensured the return of the missing person or gone, replaced by a period of passive despair engendered by the awareness of the impossibility of a return. The posting
- . The person abandoned after a certain period of time, stands out, in turn, affectively and emotionally from the person lost, reorganized on an emotional level and restarting the normal activities that distinguished his life before becoming one.
of times you can not understand why it is done, not realizing that the end was not unexpected but was somewhat foreshadowed in many small gestures, opportunities, shades, or even having noticed the latter is still living in the illusion that despite all that love would never end.
In the vast majority of us struggles, we do not give up, you try to retrieve the impossible love. Above all, we continue to love the lost person, sometimes more than before. Sometimes you try some timid hope of recovering the lost love, especially if the other party, recklessly, expresses some small sign of affection or understanding, which now tends to interpret as a signal of a renewed willingness to love and do not see it in its real meaning (typical phrase "maybe a little longer loves me '? maybe it's not all over?").
When love ends, especially if one is left, it makes a real analysis of what were the causes that led to the end.
Most of the time the person left to tend to attribute blame, attributing his wrongdoing to the end of the report. This allows to hope for changing their behavior, the report may start again, if the other gives us another chance. We want to realize that much more than simply the other does not love her anymore.
however painful it may be aware of this bitter truth, the only way to be able to get out.
You suffer so scary but time will help us finally put an end. Otherwise, hoping for another chance, only prolong the suffering going into a tunnel that will seem dead.
matter how long ago, after crying all the tears of this world, having expressed all the despair of this world, will come the moment you touch the bottom of the abyss. And in that moment, almost without realizing it, we will begin a slow but inexorable rise. We accept the reality of things. You will find that the greatest love is yet to come.
not forget that the "abandonment" also represent an opportunity for growth.
In the vast majority of us struggles, we do not give up, you try to retrieve the impossible love. Above all, we continue to love the lost person, sometimes more than before. Sometimes you try some timid hope of recovering the lost love, especially if the other party, recklessly, expresses some small sign of affection or understanding, which now tends to interpret as a signal of a renewed willingness to love and do not see it in its real meaning (typical phrase "maybe a little longer loves me '? maybe it's not all over?").
When love ends, especially if one is left, it makes a real analysis of what were the causes that led to the end.
Most of the time the person left to tend to attribute blame, attributing his wrongdoing to the end of the report. This allows to hope for changing their behavior, the report may start again, if the other gives us another chance. We want to realize that much more than simply the other does not love her anymore.
however painful it may be aware of this bitter truth, the only way to be able to get out.
You suffer so scary but time will help us finally put an end. Otherwise, hoping for another chance, only prolong the suffering going into a tunnel that will seem dead.
matter how long ago, after crying all the tears of this world, having expressed all the despair of this world, will come the moment you touch the bottom of the abyss. And in that moment, almost without realizing it, we will begin a slow but inexorable rise. We accept the reality of things. You will find that the greatest love is yet to come.
not forget that the "abandonment" also represent an opportunity for growth.
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